I believe that every woman has a right to choose, even if that means choosing to birth 14 children. Of course, I also believe that choosing to birth 14 children in 8 years makes you certifiable, but regardless, Nadya Suleman has the right to have as many kids as she wants.
And since she’s in the international spotlight and will be watched like a hawk for years to come, the state of California certainly has the right to take those kids from her if she neglects any of them. Her parents, whom she’s apparently taken advantage of for years, have the right to kick her and all of those kids out on the street. And the medical community that enabled this mess has the right to judge the physician that performed the procedure and decide if they should change any of their policies and procedures.
Personally it’s the level of entitlement that’s rubbing me the wrong way and I think that the actions of this mother are hitting a nerve with all of us. We’re simply tired of folks justifying poor choices. Whether you’re cheating on your spouse, spending money that you don’t have, eating cake and not checking off the points on your Weight Watchers plan or having 14 kids without a job, it’s this feeling of “I can, therefore I will” that is personally driving me crazy.
Another issue for me is Suleman’s inability to wait for what she wanted. Perhaps she was supposed to be the mother of a large family. But maybe she was going to meet and marry a widower with seven kids after getting her degree and landing a job. By insisting that all of her hopes and dreams happen on HER timetable, she set things into motion that she isn’t prepared to handle and she quite possibly missed out on another amazing opportunity.
Finally, I just wish she’d tell the truth rather than be in total denial about her dire circumstances. She only wanted one more child, yet she implanted 6 embryos? She was struggling financially with six kids yet she spent all of her extra money on fertility treatments? She plans on caring for her kids once she has her master degree, but “trusts that it’ll all workout in the meantime”? She screwed up – big time – if she would just admit it and ask for help she’d probably get more that way.
I think she’s a great example of all that’s wrong in our country right now. We got so used to having it all that we actually though we were entitled to it all.
We’re not. I think it’s time we all figured that out and acted accordingly.